If You Are The One

Analyse My Narrative Experience

12473942_211971799179296_1694295860352356815_o_0Autoethnography is the approach research and writing that seeks to describe and systematically analyse a personal experience. The independent autoethnographic experience I chose to narrate and analyse was the Chinese TV show ‘If You are the One’. When creating my narrative for the TV show I chose to produce it in a layered account with hints of personal narrative. When producing my narrative in these forms it allows for there to be an autoethnographic experience as well as a relevant amount of research. I think that by allowing some kind of research on the topic is definitely does provide an emphasis on the nature of research and facts which I am definitely more comfortable with. Personal narratives were helpful in this case as it included both my stories and views as well as considering my academic past and personal experiences.

I believe that I learned quite a bit through using the autoethnographic narrative approach to write about the TV show ‘If you are the One’. I think that by writing my ideas and thoughts down in a narrative autoethnographic form I was able to sort through my thoughts and feeling of the show while watching. By doing this my narrative placed emphasis on what I was feeling/thinking/remembering while watching the show which was quite interesting when looking back. As previously stated I am a fan of TV dating shows and do watch them when I can in a way to relax. I found the TV show to be very different to what I would usually watch or what we are typically exposed to.

Most of my key thoughts about the show were discussed previously but the main ones that I would like to talk through where the translations of drama and comedy across cultures, the prominent game show theme as well as the brutal honestly the show held.

I found that my (little) cultural understanding of the origins of the show didn’t impact my viewing experience very much during my time watching. I found the show hard to watch while trying to also do something else but that could just be because of the translations of what they were saying were through subtitles. The process of reading the subtitles while watching the show was quite fun and I constantly found myself trying to turn up the sound so I could hear it better only to realise that it isn’t going to help to do that at all (just a bad habit).

I found that because this TV show was talked about in another BCM class I had the conversations that we had in that class run through my head which was quite good because it helped recap the whole idea of the show. I found that my whole understanding of the show and the cultural background of it was mostly formed by previous conversations from other tutors. However, with some light research on the show, I was also able to add to the information that I had already acquired beforehand.  I found these kinds of interactions within the BCM class plus the research that was put in allowed me to explore my personal experiences and interactions as a way to achieve a better understanding of the culture and wider social understanding of the culture and wider social understanding of the context of the show.

I think that the whole show was an experience because of its unique style, both in the way that the game show like the room was presented but also in the way that the show’s narrative unfolded. Both the style and the way that the show was narrated gave it such a different feel which totally changed my encounter with dating TV shows.

The best way that I could describe or even compare the encounter would be the type of TV shows that we would be watching or be typically exposed to. The show felt out of this world and quite dramatic, which is something that I would say I was prepared for. It felt like a mash-up of all the good parts of Deal or No Deal, Family Feud and even the Bachelorette put together in a bright light, funny but quite serious way. The contestants were all in in unscripted situations and were improvising their way through the show in a way to make it as authentic and possible. I think that this brought out a lot of natural relationships between the contestant, the women, the presenter and even the audience. This type of interactivity between the people involved is something that I think we normally wouldn’t see in most of our own programs.

Dating TV Shows – If You are the One

Dating shows have become quite popular over the years and Chinas ‘If You are the One’ is no exception. We all love a good love story, but it seems that a lot of those stories of couples finding each other are becoming more frequent when media or technology becomes involved as the instigator.


I personally like to watch shows like ‘First dates’ or even ‘The Bachelor’ when nothing else is on TV. These kinds of shows give me the opportunity to somewhat switch off and just relax and take in all the (drama) scenes that happen. I think that reality TV shows have become a constant in our day to day lives to the point where we are somewhat craving drama and want it to happen and if it doesn’t people start to stop watching.


I first heard of ‘If You are the One’ in a BCM class, where we were talking about how drama is translated across different cultures. The most important concept that we talked about was how translations often rely heavily on the cultures themselves and how they run in order for their audiences to effectively engage in them. I found this quite interesting, especially with this TV show.

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Watching this show for the first time was quite a fascinating experience. I found the whole show to be entrancing, it’s something that I’m pretty sure we haven’t done before in Australia. And honestly, I’m not sure that these kinds of shows would last in Australia’s TV culture because we are very heavily into the dramatics.


I started off watching a random season and episode of the show and quickly realised how much power and control the women had over how everything played out. It was quite amazing to watch. It’s something that I haven’t seen to this extent before in our type of reality or even dating TV shows. They had complete control with their blue light switches that they could change to red instantly if they weren’t interested in the eligible bachelor. I think this part was my favourite to see. It’s an aspect that was quite funny to watch as the show progressed, especially if one of the guys said something weird or not right, the women would instantly start a domino effect of red lights.

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The translations of drama were fine when watching this show, but I found that the comedy side was confusing and at times and left me trying to figure out what someone said that made everybody laugh. There is an obvious difference for me in some of the comedy that was used in the show which made it difficult for me as an audience member watching to keep up with the differing aspects of the show. There was a growing disconnect between me and the show because of the difference in culture and understanding. I think that TV shows like this really highlight the differences in comedy and drama that audiences experience from both cultural parties. Most of the time however I was giggling and laughing because of how funny or weird the candidates were or even at what the women were saying about the candidates.


As the show progressed the short videos about the candidates were quite funny to watch and I think they made the show quite kooky and different to other shows. I found that a lot of the videos would be centered around the candidate and there would be weird facts about them which would create a somewhat personal connection with the ladies within minutes. I think this showed how brutally honest these candidates had to be in this show and I have to question whether this kind of weird honesty and somewhat fact blurting is something that we have in our own TV culture. It’s like the candidates add weird personal facts about themselves in hopes of somewhat gaining the attention of the women behind the podiums.

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It’s quite comical to see how the show is set up like a game show, and I think that this kind of theme is definitely more prominent towards the very start and the end. The start of the show reminds me of ‘Deal or No Deal’ in a way, it may be a weird comparison but that’s the first thing that popped into my head when watching. And even when the last few women walk down the runway to stand in the light for the final stage it felt so much like a game show that would be chattering behind you as you sat with your family eating at the dinner table.


The show ‘If you are the one’ is quite different to the ones that I would usually watch and brings a breath of fresh air to my viewing experience. I love the differences that this show holds and I think that it’s a fun way to change the way that shows are presented to audiences and even how they engage with it.


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Welcome to a podcast where we scrutinise the consumption habits of people consuming Asian media. Be it twits tweeting about If You Are The One or complete noobs playing Pokemon hacks, we will be there to make fun of them.

Our names, for documentation purposes only, are Brandon, Ellara and Melissa. We wanted to look at Asian media, that was pertinent to us, but in the context of the grander scheme of things. Looking at the habits of others consuming media allows us to step back and apply our research while also having the opportunity to appease our malevolent sides by poking fun at others.